Description

Why do we follow our parents' footsteps in love, even when we know they lead to heartbreak? We are all navigating our most intimate relationships with a flawed blueprint, an invisible map passed down through generations that promises connection but delivers pain. This book was born from a son's vow, made in the shadow of his mother's tears, to draw a new one.

The Sum of Us is not just another relationship guide; it is an invitation to become an architect of your heart. This groundbreaking work translates decades of powerful relationship science into a clear, actionable plan. You will:

Diagnose Your Foundation: Uncover the invisible math governing your relationships, whether it's the lonely "Roommate Equation" (1+1=2) or the fragile "Broken Pieces Equation" (1/2+1/2=1). Identify the Cracks: Learn to spot the "Four Horsemen"—Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling—the four behaviors that predict relationship failure with stunning accuracy. Face Your Ghosts: Finally understand how the wounds of your past show up in your present arguments, turning minor disagreements into devastating battles.

More than a diagnosis, this book is a practical workshop for building a love that lasts. You will learn a new language to de-escalate conflict and master the sacred art of repair, turning ruptures into moments of profound connection.

This is your chance to stop being a prisoner of your history and become a cycle-breaker. This is the guide to leaving a legacy of connection and building a love that serves as a safe sanctuary for generations to come.